Yesterday I expressed how lucky I was to be surrounded by such amazing people - and I am, but it’s not strictly because of good fortune, sometimes I had to help myself along the way.
I don’t know how to say this without sounding like an asshole, but people WANT to be my friend - or at least get to know me. Not EVERYONE, I’m not that much of a narcissist, but more so than the average every day person. Strangers or people who I see around town on occasion, they want to talk to me. They want to hear my story and almost always want to share theirs with me. I have met so many amazing people this way, but I’ve also met some pretty crazy ones too.
I am generally a nice person - most of the time. Friends, family, and many times complete strangers will open up to me. I guess people feel I can relate on some level or will have empathy as I have obviously gone through something myself. For the most part, that is true. But even I have limits and have had to set boundaries or cut ties in order to maintain my own peace or well being.
This was another practice that took a very long time to learn and it’s something I still struggle with as a born and raised people pleaser. Some people may really like you. Some might do anything for you, but that doesn’t mean they are good for you.
Individually we might both be pretty cool, but that doesn’t mean we’ll vibe well together. Like I said, I’m a nice person, but I’m not for everyone. I have limited patience, a demented sense of humor, and this mouth 😜...
BUT THAT’S OKAY.
WE ALL HAVE ISSUES. I’m sorry if you’re hearing it from me first, but it’s true. ‘Your people’ are likely your people because you share something big in common. You might not even find out for a long time, but there is likely some common thread that binds you together.
The ONE THING that we can give people that they can’t get from anyone else is OUR TIME. It is one of the most valuable things we have. I believe this whole heartedly and therefore try to share it with those who appreciate it. I spent (wasted) so much time when I was younger with ill intentioned people or people who thought they were doing me a favor by being my friend, wrongly assuming that no one else would want to be. It’s like they didn’t even know how fucking cool I was.
But that’s life. Learning who your people are, nurturing those relationships and weeding out the bad ones. It’s extremely hard to do - I know this - but our well being is so important.
It all comes down to the one most important relationship you have- the one you have with yourself. You’re the only one who can control who you allow in your life and in your space. It’s not always easy, but it’s worth it. ✌🏼
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