I’m pretty sure this quote is referencing relationships we have with others but I’m going to take this saying and go a little deeper because ya know what? I like it deep. No but really... You can also apply this to your relationship with yourself. #boom
I spent many years learning not to love, but just accept my ‘new’ body. I’m still not a huge fan but I do love myself, as-is, at least most of the time. The funny thing is that in learning to accept and love what’s on the outside I also learned a greater lesson which is to truly love what is on the inside, because honestly, that’s what really matters.
Your body can attract or deter anyone at any time. So if someone does find you attractive and decides to spark up a conversation, what happens next? You either find a spark - be it in friendship or romance, or you just don’t clique. If someone decides not to give you a chance based on what’s on the outside, is that even someone you would want to have in your life? Seems kind of superficial to me.
Okay, there does need to be some sort of sexual attraction to have a romantic relationship but different people are drawn to different things. The cool part is, if someone takes the time to get to know you, they naturally find the same beauty on the outside that they see on the inside. Once you love someone - or even just like them everything about them becomes beautiful.
Here’s the tricky part: it’s hard for someone to love you when you don’t love yourself. Even if they love you inside and out AND see you as this beautiful being, you’re never going to believe them until you can see the same person they see.
So when you see a couple and find yourself saying: what does he/she see in him/her? Ask yourself, “am I judging based on appearances?” I have been guilty of this a few times in my life but I have to turn it around and look at my own relationship. I’m POSITIVE there are people who say the same about my husband and I. I know because I’ve been there to witness it. It’s okay. I don’t take it personally. They don’t know what an amazing fucking gift I am 😉 How could they? They’re only judging us on the outside. (See how I circled that back around like a fucking boss?)
Anyway, stop being so hard on yourself. Maybe instead of staring into a mirror and judging all of your faults, you should step away and take a look a little deeper. Embrace what’s inside. Understand that THAT is who you truly are and know that once you do, that inner beauty will shine through for everyone to see - most importantly, that sexy, judgmental bitch in your mirror. 😜😘
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