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Keep Ya Hands and Ya Judgement To Yourself

Currently, there is no cure for paralysis.


Despite this scientific fact, there are an alarming number of people that believe with enough hope or faith in God, or practice, this is not true.


The amount of times I have been approached and asked about my religious beliefs - I’m guessing is higher than most. It wouldn’t be unheard of For someone to ask to pray ‘on’ me. It’s happened on many occasions and is extremely awkward. I finally became comfortable (or old) enough to say, “no thanks” when someone stops me in a retail store and asks to lay their hands on me.


Don’t get me wrong, I will take any help I can get. I appreciate all thoughts and prayers. It’s just not my personal belief that religion or a random person with a cart full of craft items will “save me”. Maybe I did hope for a while one of these people would prove me wrong, but I’m beyond that now.


I’ve also had people tell me that if only I “tried harder”, I wouldn’t STILL be in a wheelchair. If I pushed myself more, I would’ve been “better” by now. Okay, cool. Good talk. Mind you, not one of these people were there with me for the days and hours and years I devoted to therapy, experimental treatments, Faith Healing’s, or anything else. They just apparently know everything about me and modern science. I’m sure they’re also really fun at parties.

The reason a miracle is such, is bc it is not the norm. I one hundred percent believe miracles can happen. I have been around injured people who have overcome and healed. The thing is, it’s not because they tried harder or were closer to God. They just got lucky. I know. I was there. I saw it myself. Every “body” is different.


I’m not discounting the beliefs of others. I just choose to live my life a certain way. I have believed very deeply. I have hoped very hard. I have tried harder than you can even imagine. Sometimes, it just is what it is.


My point is, it’s so nice when people offer to pray for me. I appreciate all love and support, but there are people who BLAME ME for my condition. They blame my lack of faith and inability to try hard enough. They don’t even say it in an accusatory way, they just truly believe it. That’s cool. You do you, but please, let me do me.


Some of us are plagued with things that just can’t be overcome no matter what. Some things are permanent or terminal. It’s like bringing someone back from the dead - ya just can’t. Even if *you* don’t agree, those of us in some life altering predicament have likely tried it all and then some. Please understand that your hope, well wishes, prayers and good vibes are appreciated but your judgement is not. ✌🏼
























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